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This web-log is obviously about raising your children, but I am including a twist. I will be blogging about my experiences, and memories of raising my own children. My experiences have taught me a lot, so I will now and then offer advice…which you can use or not. So far, not too out of the ordinary, here’s the twist…I am a woman who is a third generation Christian. I believe that the Legacy of Faith, brought to me through those generations of Godly women, has been the key to raising my children to be happy and healthy teenagers and young adults. (Well, just one of my kids is a young adult.)
Most parents would probably say that they are successful in raising their children. But the success that my husband and I have experienced all belongs to God, the Father of Heaven and Earth. It is because of His work in my life that has caused not only myself to be hugely blessed as a parent, but also the lives of my husband, and children.
The desire of my heart is to encourage other parents, and especially moms (although there will be topics of interest also for dads), to rise to the calling of Parenthood; to research, and keep your eyes and ears open to ideas, strategies, and mindsets, that can be of help to you. I could never read enough as a new parent. The best resource book ever written, though, is the bible, as I discovered early on.
I give a little history on how my children came in to our lives here…http://www.raisingyourchildren.net/my-children-my-gift-and-my-rewardintroduction/
Please leave comments or ask questions. You can contact me by e-mail:
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I will get back to you. Thank you, and God Bless you richly.
With Love,
and Prayers,
Tina (Mama T)
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs
Did you know that the word bless or blessed in the bible means Happy? That is what I want for all of us; to be happy. The one, true way is through Jesus Christ, through whom we are able to have a real relationship with God the Father. Pretty cool, and pretty amazing!
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My son is 9 and in the 3rd grade. He has been a A, A/B honor student since 1st grade. He has been suffering with asthma since birth and has missed tons of school but has always managed to get honor roll. Just with in this last week he has jumped into a new chapter of math which he has not been able to grasp the whole thing. He’s always been the kid that wants to succed in everything. We have never pushed our kids to make sure they are the best in everything, but we have always told them to try and be your best that’s all we ask. But with in the last 2 days as soon as they start math in class he complains of a headache and goes to the nurses in tears. Today was the second day this has happened and I need to know how to approach this with the correct questions so he doesnt feel intimadated.
Dear Michele,
Your comment brings back memories of my struggling student.
My very first and best advice is always ask God for help first. God knows your son better than you do. God sees and knows his mind and body. God knows what is going on. Ask God for wisdom, and ask Him to help both you and your son. Usually things don’t change overnight. But they do get better.
Second, the advice my mom always gave me was, “don’t sweat it, things always work out.” In other words, “don’t panic!” I found this to be true; just when I was ready to panic, I’d see a change for the better.
You mentioned that your son wants to succeed. Does he expect himself to be ‘perfect?’ A boy in my son’s third grade class would cry if he didn’t get 100% on his math tests. (He had his own idea of what he should accomplish, which was unrealistic.) This may also be the first time math hasn’t come easy to your son, and he has to learn how to cope with ‘failure,’ or at least what he thinks is failure. Parents of young children now days (including me) try to make everything ‘perfect’ for their children, but forget to let them fail and make mistakes, and struggle. Children who learn to cope have a much easier time transitioning in to new situations, especially when they grow up and leave home. This is actually a character building opportunity. A life lesson. If perfectionism and high achieving is his personality, then as a parent you must validate him regardless of what he achieves. That doesn’t mean you need to praise him for things, it means that just spending time with him (including his father) shows him that he has high value to you just the way he is.
What does his teacher have to say about this? After you have prayed and ‘slept on it,’ you may want to ask his teacher for her opinion. She is ‘your partner.’ If you do approach her with your problem, do so as you would a trusted friend.
What you have described is part of what makes motherhood so hard. I used to wish God would just light up a neon light telling me what to do. Mothers tend to want to ‘fix’ everything. And we want to fix it yesterday. We want to be in control. At least I did, but not as much now. God uses our children to mold us as mothers and people. Motherhood makes us stretch. Motherhood makes us look to God for help. We grow along with our children. It’s a beautiful thing!
Thank you for asking me this question. I am not an expert, just a mom who has been there! God bless you, and contact me again if you have more questions. Please, let me know how things turn out! Remember, change usually doesn’t happen overnight! That is part of the growing, part of the lesson.
Blessings,
Mama T : )
shalom! may you please send me information on how to raise children, including the teachings for example in terms of dressing, communication, respect ,obedience etc. i really want to share with them in a workshop to teach them on how to become women of virtue and mighty men of vilour. stay blessed
Dear Reader,
Thank you for inquiring for information regarding raising children. I really would like to be of service to you. I have a few questions to ask so that I may know how to better help you. Thank you for your request!
Love,
Tina
Hi, Tina! I love your goal, to pass on to younger women the wisdom you have gleaned over the years. I want it, I need it! I’m happy to be a part of Raising Your Children.
I’m looking forward to seeing your blog unfold and I’m excited about the journey.
Blessings!
Hi back at ya Missy!
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Thanks for the encouragement. I think you’ve got it down pat, this Christian mothering thing! As we help each other out and work together, we are going to affect our world for the best (and for God) through our children! Very exciting
With Love,
Tina
Hey there! Would you mind if I share your blog with my facebook group? There’s a lot of folks that I think would really appreciate your content. Please let me know. Thanks
Dear reader,
I am not sure what you mean by “share” the blog. Raising Your Children has a facebook page, so you certainly may “like” Raising Your Children, or post a link, or direct people to it for them to read. (Is that what you mean by “share?”) The information I write and personal thoughts are for everybody to read. It exists to benefit those who visit this blog. Thank you for your encouragement!
Blessings,
Tina
I see your point, and I totally value the blog. For what its worth I will tell all my friends about it, quite inspiring. Bye for now.
I really get where your coming from, not to mention I wholly envy the content. Needless to say I will certainly convey to just about all my family and friends regarding this, quite authentic. Bye for the moment.
What a Blessing to young families! You have a heart filled with God’s love Tina to share this information with us.
Thank you Bel for the encouraging comments! This is quite an adventure for me; I have absolutely no idea what good it is do-ing, but I keep writing anyway. : )
Hiya, I’m really glad I have found this info. Nowadays bloggers publish just about gossips and web and this is actually annoying. A good website with interesting content, that is what I need. Thank you for keeping this web site, I will be visiting it. Do you do newsletters? Can not find it.
Dear Jhon,
Thank you! I appreciate hearing that you like this site. In answer to your question, no I do not do newsletters, however my goal is to write articles and post them more often. I am still learning how to do things on this site. Bookmark this site and keep coming back! Things here will only be getting better!
Blessings,
Mama T
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Your kids certainly are wonderful people. The things you can pass on to younger Moms will be invaluable. The proof is in the pudding and your kids have turned out great. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and experience
Hi Tina
Dear Reader,
Ignorance may be bliss, until we face God to give an account of ourselves. For those who have pushed God away, I am deeply concerned. Can you say that you are sure that you are going to heaven? I can, because God sees the righteousness of Christ when He looks at me. Jesus took my punishment. My account has been cleared and I have been legally found “not guilty.” God has laws, and because He is a righteous judge, He is incapable of letting the guilty go free without paying the punishment for their breaking of the law. Good deeds are not the legally binding method of payment for the laws we have all broken. The love and mercy of God is this…”and while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” His mercy toward us is His providing a way for us to avoid the punishment we deserve by dying for us. If we reject Jesus, we reject God.
I have been reading the bible and seeking the Lord for many, many years. I am more sure of what I believe now than ever. I am sure enough to even start a blog about these things. I emplore you to seek God out-don’t take my word for it. If you REALLY and truly want to KNOW God, if you are sincere and ask HIM, He will show you. But know this…He knows your heart!
With Love dear reader,
Tina